Dear Friends & Family, It's true. I chose this life and everything that has accompanied it since. I chose to parents kids who require extra time to celebrate their culture. Attend cultural events. Cook new foods, and continually educate myself on a culture not my own. I chose to have children who come with another extended family of their own. I chose to ... Read More
Navigating Back to School: Through the Adoption and Foster Care Lens
The new school year is almost upon us, and for many of us, it may have already begun. It marks the return to reality and for so many of our kids (and ourselves) a wave of emotions begins to arise at the thought of returning. Some of you may be ready to celebrate the return to quieter days, and others may feel sadness at the thought of summer coming to an end. Whether we have ... Read More
The #1 Thing You’re Messing Up During Your Child’s Meltdown
We've all been there. Playing with our kids at home, our child gets triggered and ALL chaos ensues. Navigating a meltdown can be hard. This can be a common occurrence for many parents, but when you're parenting a child with special needs, it can reach a whole new level. I think it is safe to say many of us avoid triggers like the plague. Recently I attended an ... Read More
The Importance of Support in Adoption and Foster Care
As many of us travel along this journey of adoption and foster care, few of us will make it without finding ourselves knee deep in the trenches. It is while in those trenches that we truly realize the importance of support in adoption and foster care. Rose Colored Glasses Daniel and I first started the adoption process quite young. He was only 19 and I ... Read More
An Open Letter from the Mother of a Bully
We all know one. That child at school who calls other kids names. The one that says rude comments. The one that doesn't play fair during games, or tries to control who gets to play with the group. As a parent seeing your child's feelings get hurt, this can be heartbreaking, challenging, and down right infuriating. Hi! I'm the parent of that bully. But instead of saying ... Read More
Why You Should Reward Your Child for Bad Behavior
You're standing in your kitchen washing dishes when suddenly your 10 year old child comes walking in. He asks if he can have an ice cream sandwich. Dinner is in 5 minutes so you calmly let him know not right now, but after dinner. Unfortunately, this tried and true method of delaying the "yes" doesn't work and your child begins to meltdown. I'm not talking your average ... Read More
Achieving Your Dreams As a Mom
Several years ago I wrote the following except in an old blog: Recently I was watching the movie Conviction, detailing the real life story of Betty Anne Waters. Waters, who had a brother wrongfully convicted of murder, spent 18 years putting herself through law school in order to prove her brother’s innocence. She was a waitress, had 2 children, and had limited time and ... Read More
A Day In the Life of FASD
One of the top questions I get from people considering adoption or foster care, is whether or not they think they can manage a child with FASD (Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder). ... Read More